I grew up seeing my mom work full time outside of the home. That didn’t and does not make her a bad wife and mother. I spent a lot of time with my grandma because of it. It also forced me to be more independent, self reliant and adventurous.
Being “self-reliant” isn’t necessarily a bad or unchristian trait. When a Christian is self reliant, They know they still need God, his salvation, his forgiveness, his love, his guidance, his wisdom, and so much more. It means that we are able to not rely on others when God gave us the knowledge and aptitude to do ourselves.
We live in a day and age where women have so many more life options and we have the ability to act on God’s call for our own lives whether that is to be a Lawyer, Doctor, Surgeon, Large Animal Vet, Entrepreneur, CEO, Teacher, Nurse, secretary, a work from home wife and mother or even a stay at home wife and mother. There is nothing wrong with a Christian woman getting a college education and having a career when it’s God’s call for their lives, there is also nothing wrong with a woman being a stay at home wife and mother if that is her call.
What I have a problem with, is denying children of getting a high school diploma from an accredited school or homeschool program, and not allowing adult children to attend an accredited college or university (even if they have to figure out how to pay for it themselves), if they want and are called to do. If a young women wants to be a stay at home wife and mother that needs to be her choice. I personally believe a young woman should at least work during her single years, even if she doesn’t go to college, even if she does become a stay at home wife and mother.
Why do I feel that it is important for a young woman to work outside of the home before she gets married? It is because she doesn’t know when (of if she is called to be married), and she doesn’t know what will happen 10, 20, 30 or more years down the road. What if her husband became ill and died or was killed somehow. What then? She will have to figure out how to take care of herself and her children if she has them. Knowing how to go about a job search, having some work experience to put in a resume, and knowing how to hold down a job are important.
I have a bachelors degree in addition to my high school diploma, and I am currently not using my degree. I majored in Social Science (with a focus in American History) and I minored in Literature.
I have worked several jobs since I graduated from college. Through each one the Lord has shown me whether it is a direction I should pursue or not.
I definitely love Homemaking, like my grandmothers’ generation did, as well as homesteading, and growing / raising as much of my own food as possible, as well as living in the country and living in some acreage. If I am called to be a stay at home / work from home wife and mother I would be happy. I love sharing my passion for home grown fruit and vegetables as well as home raised meat and wild caught / hunted meat. Not to mention cooking, baking, canning and preserving my own food. I developed food intolerances as an adult, which has fueled my love of cooking and baking. I had my own apartment for most of my time in college and I loved having my own place to live in, decorate and take care of.
In conclusion, God’s call for each of us is as individual as each of us are. So, telling someone they aren’t allowed to be who God made to be, because of your ow religious beliefs is hypocritical, and putting your will ahead of God’s. When it comes to what each woman should be doing with her life, should not be dictated by a man or another human being. If a woman is called to have a career she should do that, if she is called to stay home, that should only be dictated to her by God.