Marriage Does Not Complete Us

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The idea/concept/pressure that we as women are fed, and urged to believe that we are somehow incomplete, less than, sub par, or not a whole person until we get married has been something I have dealt with myself.

I know for a fact that I, as a woman am a whole and complete person with or without a man in my life.

God doesn’t make mistakes, and he doesn’t make half the population incomplete until they walk down that aisle and say “I do”, and then all of a sudden be made whole because they are hitched.

Some of us are called to be married, others aren’t. Some of those who are called to be married, get married at a later age than others. That doesn’t make me, or any other single lady incomplete or any less of a whole person than a young woman who gets married in her early twenties.

Earlier today, I had come across an Instagram post and later YouTube video, by Emily Wilson, touching on this topic. It reinforced what I already know to be true.

The idea/concept/construct that marriage completes us, and that we need to actively be pursuing a relationship with a man in order to be complete is one of the biggest lies Satan uses to chip away at us and get our focus off of God.

Marriage isn’t for everyone, and some get married later in life.

When we realize that it will happen in God’s time, and that God is what makes us complete all on our own; we can work on focusing on what God wants us to be doing during our single years. They are not wasted years. I know it’s hard, trust me, I do. It doesn’t help that we have friends, family, media and strangers trying to force it down our throats that in being married we have gained a half that was missing or a better half, or that somehow our worth as a human being and a woman is diminished while we are single is just a crap pile of lies.

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Called to be Single in my 20’s.

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As I draw closer to God and reflect back on my twenties, since I left that decade of my life about seven months ago, I have come to realize and see that for me, I spent my twenties being single so I could grow, come back to God and learn about who I am as a woman of God.

I started my twenties in the middle of my sophomore year of college, majoring in Early Childhood / Elementary Education. A couple short months later I changed my major to Social Science and minored in Literature. It was while I was in college, that the adventurous side of me started to come out. I was exploring the world around me.

A little over a year after I had finished college, I took off and went to New York on my own. I was 23, and had gone out to be a nanny. Things didn’t end up that well, and it was not a good fit, so I was sent home after only a week. Due to weather issues in my first layover city going home, I couldn’t get out of New York until the next morning, so I had spent the night alone, at La Guardia. It Eerie, Creepy and I did not sleep at all that night. At this point in my life I had turned my back on God years before. That didn’t matter that night, I had prayed a few earnest prayers that night and the Lord kept me safe.

It was another three years after that trip before I gave my life to God.

The summer I gave my heart to God, I was 26. It was nothing spectacular to witness. I was alone, at home, and it was the middle of the night.

The years in between going to New York, and getting saved, my best friend and I did a fair amount of hiking, and outdoorsy stuff.

After I gave my heart to the Lord and he saved my soul, I was still loved being outdoors, and have always felt more at home away from the big city than in it.

I know that I spent my twenties without being in a serious relationship, because I needed to get my life right with God, and to become the Woman he created me to be. If I had been in a committed relationship, I would not have been able to do what I was able to do in my twenties, and I don’t know how much further I would have strayed from God.

Serving in our own Communities

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Over the past four years or so, the Lord has really been putting it on my heart to find ways to serve others in need here in my home country. Despite the fact that the U.S. has been one of the countries with a good standard of living, where most places have clean water, and access to many amenities that we take for granted, there are areas right here in our own country that don’t have what many of us take for granted, like clean drinking water, running water, electricity (and I’m not talking about those who choose to live off grid in more remote places, I am talking about people who genuinely don’t have access to these basic things). There are areas of our country were people are living in extreme poverty, and for the most part they are being overlooked and ignored just because we are all in the US.

I don’t want to fault people who are genuinely called to go on missions trips and be longterm missionaries in Micronesia, Polynesia, Melanesia, as well as in Africa, Central, and South America. When you are called to do something, you need to go do it.

At the same time, We, as a body of believers should also be ministering to those here at home as well. There are areas of our country where people have never heard the Gospel at all, and areas where it seems like people have forgotten about or are too afraid to go. It is hard to fathom that there are children who live in homes where there is not enough money for food, whose last meal for the week is their lunch at school on Friday, and they don’t eat again until Monday when they go back to school.

Helping the vulnerable and those who are in truly in need of a helping hand here at home, and in our own communities are those I know that I am being called to help and minister to. We don’t need to be called to be a missionary to Africa or Asia to be of use to God, a willing heart and trusting God is what we need.

This is part of why I choose to live a simpler life so that I am able to do what I can where I can to help those in need, especially children and the elderly who need more help.

Ministry Burdens

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There is so much on my heart tonight, and I have no idea if I will be able to totally convey to you all what is on my heart accurately.

I really feel like the Lord has stopped me in my tracks and opened my eyes to changes that need to be made / opportunities that are not being acted upon and that there is a part for me to play in helping those changes happen. There are so many outreach and ministry opportunities that aren’t fully acted upon in a sustainable manner.

The where, what, why and how is up to God.

God is the Epitome of Love

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What a crazy and tough year and a half it has been for me spiritually.

It has been an uphill struggle since I lost my job 16 months ago. I have spent the last year feeling like I have been at rock bottom. I even doubted God and my faith in him. I had left the church I was raised in for the better part of a year. I had things I needed to sort out for myself and needed time to branch out and see other churches and have time with just me and God.

There have been baby steps occurring over the past few months and glimpses of God’s goodness and patience with me.

Things are not perfect nor will they ever be, though I am slowly starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I have really started becoming content with who God created me to be and with what I believe. I have come to terms with my past and how it has gotten me to where I am and who I am today.

I have also had a good friend to talk to at times who seems to get me better than anyone else. Then again she is the second daughter of five in her family, and we seem like similar personalities, to a point.

Being Willing to Do as God Asks.

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I kind of want to follow up on my last post, as it was a bit vague.

I have had a lot on my mind and my heart lately, as to what the Lord is calling of me and requiring of me.

Over the course of the last few years, I have kept coming back to living a simpler life, where I don’t have more than I need, and being able to share the abundance and excess with those who are in need and who are struggling to make ends meet. Growing up I always had what I needed and got some of what I wanted. As I have gotten older my needs and wants have changed.

This past year, I have really begun to understand what I things I really need, and that I don’t need the latest and greatest tech device when my older one still works and isn’t broken.

I have also seen others take what they have been blessed with for granted, and they have a sense of entitlement, and waste money and things (like food that is still good, but they don’t want to eat), like it’s going out of style. It saddens me and infuriates me that people are so selfish and self-centered when people right here in our own communities are going hungry. There are families where the parent(s) work multiple jobs and are unable to make ends meet, and the children go hungry.

I have this burden to do more to help those who are truly in need. I am still waiting on the Lord to clarify exactly where and how he intends for me to fill that gap, and when that door opens, I am willing to fill that gap.

I don’t feel like what I am called to do is very much, and I also wonder why me, and whether I can do it. I know these doubts are human, and that God is bigger than all of this. We all have a part to play. All God asks is for a willing heart and he will make a way for his will to be done.

We are not Mistakes

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This past year has been a tough year for me, especially spiritually. I am by no means through the trial, though I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

The Lord has really helped me and put his finger on things he is calling me to do and asking me to consecrate to him.

He has been helping me to see the woman he wants me to be and be willing to put in the work to accomplish his will.

He has also been helping me to understand that he didn’t make a mistake when he made me who I am, and that my purpose isn’t to please others or follow their will. My purpose is to be the woman he made me to be and follow him, no matter what anyone else thinks I should be doing.

He does give us talents and strengths to use for his glory, he also at times calls us to use our weaknesses so that he can show his strength through our weakness. There will be times he asks us to give up what we want in order to do what he asks of us. That part is hard.

We as human beings and as Christians grow and change, and when we allow God to work in our lives he does do amazing things.