The idea/concept/pressure that we as women are fed, and urged to believe that we are somehow incomplete, less than, sub par, or not a whole person until we get married has been something I have dealt with myself.
I know for a fact that I, as a woman am a whole and complete person with or without a man in my life.
God doesn’t make mistakes, and he doesn’t make half the population incomplete until they walk down that aisle and say “I do”, and then all of a sudden be made whole because they are hitched.
Some of us are called to be married, others aren’t. Some of those who are called to be married, get married at a later age than others. That doesn’t make me, or any other single lady incomplete or any less of a whole person than a young woman who gets married in her early twenties.
Earlier today, I had come across an Instagram post and later YouTube video, by Emily Wilson, touching on this topic. It reinforced what I already know to be true.
The idea/concept/construct that marriage completes us, and that we need to actively be pursuing a relationship with a man in order to be complete is one of the biggest lies Satan uses to chip away at us and get our focus off of God.
Marriage isn’t for everyone, and some get married later in life.
When we realize that it will happen in God’s time, and that God is what makes us complete all on our own; we can work on focusing on what God wants us to be doing during our single years. They are not wasted years. I know it’s hard, trust me, I do. It doesn’t help that we have friends, family, media and strangers trying to force it down our throats that in being married we have gained a half that was missing or a better half, or that somehow our worth as a human being and a woman is diminished while we are single is just a crap pile of lies.