All Things Work Together for Good

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“And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:27-28‬ ‭KJV

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This passage of scripture has been on my heart a lot the past few months, and I keep coming back to it. This passage is a reoccuring theme and I know the Lord reminds me with it that everything I have gone through, am going through and will go through will be used for good and his Glory.

As a young adult, I went to a university to further my education in hopes to help me find a better job, and help provide the comforts of this life. Between studying Women’s History, History of the American West, hearing stories told of when my grandparents were kids, and seeing how the recession has hit people, myself included, I know that they are all pieces of the puzzle so to speak. They have been teaching moments that God has used to mold me. 

Having seen God work in the hard times, and in times when he seems silent and far away, I know that holding on to the fact that I know he is there, and the promises he has given us. 

God has called each of us to a different career and life.

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I grew up seeing my mom work full time outside of the home. That didn’t  and does not make her a bad wife and mother. I spent a lot of time with my grandma because of it. It also forced me to be more independent, self reliant and adventurous. 

Being “self-reliant” isn’t necessarily a bad or unchristian trait. When a Christian is self reliant, They know they still need God, his salvation, his forgiveness, his love, his guidance, his wisdom, and so much more. It means that we are able to not rely on others when God gave us the knowledge and aptitude to do ourselves. 

We live in a day and age where women have so many more life options and we have the ability to act on God’s call for our own lives whether that is to be a Lawyer, Doctor, Surgeon, Large Animal Vet, Entrepreneur, CEO, Teacher, Nurse, secretary, a work from home wife and mother or even a stay at home wife and mother. There is nothing wrong with a Christian woman getting a college education and having a career when it’s God’s call for their lives, there is also nothing wrong with a woman being a stay at home wife and mother if that is her call. 

What I have a problem with, is denying children of getting a high school diploma from an accredited school or homeschool program, and not allowing adult children to attend  an accredited college or university (even if they have to figure out how to pay for it themselves), if they want and are called to do. If a young women wants to be a stay at home wife and mother that needs to be her choice. I personally believe a young woman should at least work during her single years, even if she doesn’t go to college, even if she does become a stay at home wife and mother. 

Why do I feel that it is important for a young woman to work outside of the home before she gets married? It is because she doesn’t know when (of if she is called to be married), and she doesn’t know what will happen 10, 20, 30 or more years down the road. What if her husband became ill and died or was killed somehow. What then? She will have to figure out how to take care of herself and her children if she has them. Knowing how to go about a job search, having some work experience to put in a resume, and knowing how to hold down a job are important. 

I have a bachelors degree in addition to my high school diploma, and I am currently not using my degree. I majored in Social Science (with a focus in American History) and I minored in Literature. 

I have worked several jobs since I graduated from college. Through each one the Lord has shown me whether it is a direction I should pursue or not.

I definitely love Homemaking, like my grandmothers’ generation did, as well as homesteading, and growing / raising as much of my own food as possible, as well as living in the country and living in some acreage. If I am called to be a stay at home / work from home wife and mother I would be happy. I love sharing my passion for home grown fruit and vegetables as well as home raised meat and wild caught / hunted meat. Not to mention cooking, baking, canning and preserving my own food. I developed food intolerances as an adult, which has fueled my love of cooking and baking. I had my own apartment for most of my time in college and I loved having my own place to live in, decorate and take care of. 

In conclusion, God’s call for each of us is as individual as each of us are. So, telling someone they aren’t allowed to be who God made to be, because of your ow religious beliefs is hypocritical, and putting your will ahead of God’s. When it comes to what each woman should be doing with her life, should not be dictated by a man or another human being. If a woman is called to have a career she should do that, if she is called to stay home, that should only be dictated to her by God. 

Trusting in God when your whole world is falling apart 

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I have felt the need to write this post for a little while, even though I am still in the midst of the trial. 

In the past week or so the lord has put the chorus of the Lauren Daigle song “trust in you” on my heart, as a reminder that even though I am going through a huge trial and feel like my world is crashing down around me, I still need to trust in Him. 

When You don’t move the mountains
I’m needing You to move
When You don’t part the waters
I wish I could walk through
When You don’t give the answers
As I cry out to You
I will trust, I will trust, I will trust in You

I am trying to be content with where I am while I am waiting on God to fill in the details and open the door for the next step of the way. I don’t do well with living in an uncertain situation where I feel stuck and trapped while I know that it’s not where I am supposed to be. I keep reminding myself that God has something bigger in store for me, and this is just a chapter in my life. 

I am also reminded of the story of Job in the Old Testament. God allows Satan to take everything from Job with the exception of Job’s life. In the process Job question his whole existence and God. In the process of everything, even in great loss, and when we feel like our world is crashing down around us, and we ask why God would let such bad things happen to good people, we can look to Job and see that our wisdom and knowledge is limited in comparison to God’s. Job was also given bad advice on the part of his “friend’s”, because they were humans and had limited understanding of why God does what he does and how God works. This story also goes to show us that even when our world is upside down God is in control and knows what will happen. At the. End of the book of Job, God restored to Job what he had had prior to the trial and then multiplied it. 

Modesty is not a Female only Issue

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In many Christian Circles, Modesty is only really directed at the ladies, and how it is our fault that men lust after us, if we dane to wear immodest clothing, and even when we do wear modest clothing, they will lust after us. That they can’t help themselves, and it is all our (female’s) fault that men lust after us. This line of thinking has never set well with me, and I am by no means a feminist, nowhere close. I do however believe in personal responsibility. The bible does emphasize modesty for Women.

While girls/women/ladies should be dressing modestly, guys/boys/dudes/men also have the responsibility to learn how to control their lusts and desires. They are not some animals who have no control over what they think about or do.

I saw this video earlier, about christian modesty from the guys perspective. This guy talks about how guys need to take responsibility for their own thoughts, actions and behavior and stop shifting the blame and responsibility to those who it doesn’t belong too, because they don’t want to take responsibility for something they don’t want to control. So they blame women for their lusts, and sinful desires. He does make the point that females do need to dress modestly, as it is biblically right and proper, but it ultimately comes down to personal responsibility on the parts of guys and girls.

Modesty is a choice, and being a female of the millennial generation, I totally believe in modesty, and that it is important for females. That is one of the things that has really been on my heart lately, is the lack of modesty among women these days, and every time I go out in public much many times I see women walking around in clothes that are immodest, I don’t want to be seeing that. I know full well what a woman’s body looks like, without having to see someone else’s while I am at the mall, or at any given store.

Modesty also applies to men, but it is not talked about, much, if ever. At least not where I come from. While guys are more visual creatures than women, girls & women check out guys all the time. When guys walk around in pants that are too tight, or that are so loose are sagging off their rear ends, or aren’t wearing a shirt, or wear a very well fitted shirt, I know without a doubt that the ladies are checking him out, and lusting after him. In our culture male modesty is almost never talked about like it doesn’t exist, and that women take no pleasure in looking at a man, and when he dresses indecently/immodestly that women will and do lust after him.

Modesty goes both ways, and young people, both males and females, need to be taught that they both share in the responsibility of dressing modestly, and learning how to deal with the lustful thoughts that are do not bring any kind of glory to God, and diminishes their self worth and the worth the of person they lust after.

Having grown up in the largest city in the state, as well as one of the larger cities along the West Coast, and having gone to public schools my whole life, I saw a lot. I was also doing my K-12 during the height of when guys of all races were sagging. I remember it still being popular when I was in middle school and into high school (1999 – 2006). There was one time in middle school, one of the guys my age (a white guy no less), was sagging, and going up the stairs ahead of me. I wanted to pants him so bad. The little voice in the back of my head telling me I would get in trouble what the only thing stopping me.

As a society and culture, it’s ok for guys to go shirtless and for girls to be checking him out, but women have to be covered. It is a double standard that isn’t right. While the world would tell you that it is wrong for our society, and for men to sexualize a part of a woman’s body that God created for women to feed their infants while telling guys that it is completely normal to run around shirtless and that to women it is wrong to sexualize men is a double standard that should not exist. I have even seen this double standard exist at church summer camps – girls have to wear one “modest” one piece swimsuits, only at the swimming spot (whether that is at the lake, river, pool or what have you), and have to have some sort of swim cover on going between their cabin and swimming spot, but the guys are allowed to go shirtless between their cabins and the swim spot, as well as playing games (like basketball and tennis), and there is no restrictions on the kind of swim bottoms they can bring.

Modesty needs to start within the home and apply to both genders, and then be reinforced at church and church activities. Don’t tell girls that they have to cover up without expecting and enforcing a similar policy for boys (IE shirt or rash guard while swimming for boys while swimming), and that at church activities, they boys have to be wearing a top as well as bottoms that cover their underwear.

When I was younger, Modesty was one of those things that I heard about and was a bit of buzzkill. Largely in part during the years I really had no say in my wardrobe. As I have gotten older, and have the say in my wardrobe, and have been finding my own style it has become something that the Lord has put on my heart. For girls especially, I know it is hard in this day and age to dress age appropriately and have a style all your own that doesn’t make you look frumpy and older than you need to be, that is also modest. For your own sake, it can  be done.

Being a Light in the Darkness

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Over the past few weeks, there has been a burden on my heart for sharing the gospel. The seeds of this burden were planted when i watched Rend Collective’s As Family We Go promotional video, and throughout the video Gareth tells the story od St. Brendan. He also talks about how we as Christian’s can get complacent and comfortable in where we are and what we are doing to the point where we have essentially become lukewarm pew warmers, rather than following where God’s spirit calls us, even when it is outside of our comfort zones and means leaving what is known and familiar. The phrase that Gareth used that has stuck with me is something along the lines of “we gather for strength and scatter for light”, which to me means, we as the church gather to learn and grow spiritually as well as help build each other up and help them grow, yet go out and share the light of the gospel with those who need to hear it, as well as meet other Christians along the way. In meeting other Christians along the way, they can help us grow and we can help them grow and encourage each other.

“Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:14-16‬ ‭KJV

‬“Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭28:19-20‬ ‭KJV

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God has called us to let our light shine like a house on a hill (or like a lighthouse out to sea), and to share the Gospel with others. 

A few Thoughts on the subject of Modesty and Purity 

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In my last post I mentioned the subject of modesty and that it was a subject of Modesty. So here I am, to discuss it a bit. 

Modesty applies not only to young ladies, but to everyone, males and females alike. I know, that at least in my case, modesty was preached solely to the young ladies, while the young men were pretty much let off the hook. 

As Christian young women, we do need to dress modestly. That doesn’t mean you have to wear a skirt 24/7, or look like the Amish women, or the duggar girls if that is not something God calls of you. In some cases pants can be more modest than skirts. Case in point – properly fitting Bermuda Shorts (that aren’t too tight, but aren’t falling off either), are more modest than mini skirts and skirts that hug the figure and are too tight. 

To the young ladies and parents of young ladies; it is totally possible to dress age appropriately, without looking frumpy and dowdy. You just have to be selective. I know what it is like to have been dressed in a non age appropriate manner for the sake of modesty. I was in college before I really began to really find my own style and what works for me, and still be modest. 

I used to wear a lot of clothes from old navy, and still have some, when I can find something that fits. I also love Maurice’s. Nowadays my wardrobe is primarily made up of clothes from Maurice’s and some from Old Navy. I am definitely a layers kind of person, and one of the things I love about Maurice’s is their Lace edged crinkle tanks. They have adjustable strapes, and come up high enough with out being uncomfortable, and are a bit longer, so no midriff is shown, yet are also light enough to be worn under sheer and lightweight tops during the summer and are not too hot. 

The whole being able to dress age appropriately yet modestly was and still is a huge deal for me. 

As I am writing this, and pondering it in my heart, it has also been on my heart, that Modesty is more than just the responsibility of young women. Young men also need to be held accountable for their actions, yes they are way more visual than young women, but they also need to be taught, and practice self control. 

Modesty in and of itself also applies to guys as well. As a society we have been setting a double standard for our young men and women. We teach girls that they need to dress modestly (which is true and important), yet boys and young men are taught that they can run around shirtless, and wear sagging pants or tight fitting skinny jeans, for the whole world to see. You can’t tell me that young women don’t check out the young men, just as much as they check out the young women. Trust me, we do check out the guys. This double standard is not right, as God has called us all to be responsible for our actions, and that both genders need to be modest. 

Modesty goes along with Purity, Modesty or lack there of, is the outward reflection of the heart. As Christian’s living in a sinful and sin driven world, we have to work hard to keep our purity of heart, mind, and body. Modesty is just one of the outward indicators and choices of the works that God has done on our hearts. 

You are Bought with a Price

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“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:19-20‬ ‭KJV

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Christ was born of a virgin, lived a simple life, and payed the ultimate sacrifice for our sins. he gave his life and rose again to atone our sins.

I know I have read this passage before at various points, and sat through Sunday School lessons and devotionals taught on this passage. But it wasn’t until reading it again yesterday evening, that it’s meaning really settled on my heart. 
Because God created us, and sent his son to pay the ultimate price for us and our spiritual freedom that we belong to him, who created us, and paid the price for our sins. 

How we talk, dress, act, and in everything we do, we are to live our lives in such a way that glorifies God. Modesty is a part of that, but is a subject for another blog post. 

While God gave us our free will to choose, serving God isn’t always easy, but it is so much better than not serving God.